How to improve your babies sleep without sleep training.

How to improve your babies sleep without sleep training.

How to improve your babies sleep without sleep training.

Can you teach your baby to sleep without sleep training?

Often when we think of sleep training we conjure up thoughts of a young helpless newborn crying and screaming alone in their bed, hungry and desperate.

Whilst this is completely false, this image is enough to completely put a lot of parents off the idea of sleep training, and therefore they will go months sometimes years with less than ideal sleep, thinking they have no choice despite being desperately tired. Broken sleep is the number one cause of sleep deprivation, most parents are actually in bed for a reasonable length of time overnight. The issue is the number of times we are getting up to put a dummy back in, rock, or pace around the house trying desperately to get our baby or toddler back to sleep. This broken sleep means our bodies are not getting the slow wave sleep they need for optimum function. We’re increasing our risk of obesity, lowering our immune function, and our brains are suffering….that mummy brain fog is real!

But can we do anything about this lack of sleep without “sleep training”…..yes!

We can begin by working on the 4 key elements of sleep hygiene, and often with a consistent approach this is enough to dramatically improve our children’s sleep.


Sleep Hygiene

  1. Their environment: Is it conducive to good restorative sleep? Or is encouraging broken sleep, and physiologically not supporting sleep.
  1. Know your child’s sleep cue’s. What signs do they show that they are getting ready to sleep, that feeling of sleepiness is taking over and their bodies want to sleep! Their melatonin is rising, they should already be in bed by this stage, maybe you are missing this? Having them in bed as these feelings take over mean that your child can learn to give in to those feelings of sleep and you are setting them up for successfully falling asleep.  
  1. Think about the specific sleep routine you may have purposely or accidentally conditioned your child to need to move from awake to asleep. This is essentially a habit loop, where the ultimate reward is falling asleep. How does your child’s sleep routine help this. Now many parents think the sleep routine stops once your baby or toddler is in their sleeping bag and bed room…… But what you do from this time until the moment they fall asleep is their sleep routine. Do you rock until they are asleep then sneak them into bed? This is their sleep routine. Each time they naturally wake from a sleep cycle, day and night, they will need this same specific set of circumstances and this sleep routine to get back to sleep. Changing this sleep routine and starting to disassociate things like rocking and feeding from sleep, is a key step in creating awesome sleep habits that will see your entire family having more restorative sleep, with more time in that slow wave sleep.
  1. Timing of sleep means that we are working with your child’s circadian rhythm. Working with someone’s circadian rhythm (internal biological clock) is so important this year’s Nobel prize in medicine went to understanding this very topic better. We know that when we sleep at the “right” times, sleep comes much easier to us, children fall asleep faster, with less fuss, they have more restorative sleep, and they wake happier. Allowing children to get over tired, or sleep at the wrong times, can lead to that feeling of jet lag, or shift working. Short term this is fine, everyone recovers, but long long term this junk sleep isn’t in sync with our biological rhythms and is linked to higher rates of mental and physical health issues. Get your child’s real time matching their internal time by looking and assessing the timing of things like their naps, their night sleep, their main meals and their milk feeds.

Understanding sleep hygiene allows us to better understand our own children as unique children, and from here we can adjust our parenting responses to meet their needs as well as establish healthy sleep habits which are going to stick with them for life.

In a nut shell, if the term “sleep training” makes you think HELL NO, but you’re wanting to improve the way your baby or toddler sleeps, then your first steps should be in establishing proper sleep hygiene. This might take 1-2 weeks, part 3 might even take 1-6 weeks depending on how slowly you change those associations. But I promise you, I have worked with thousands of parents who don’t “sleep train”, but we manage to get their babies and toddlers taking awesome naps, unassisted and massively improve their night sleep.

Only you know if you are stuck in a loop of junk sleep, tired children, and parental exhaustion, and ultimately only you can change this situation.



  • I would love for someone to get in touch with me. My son is keeping the whole family awake for hours continuously up every few hours at night and not sleeping through the day. I have tryed putting him down as soon as I see signs of tiredness. He seems to be fine for a bit then just screams and screams. I have tried settling him from in his bed.. on me having a drink but he still wakes up within the hours every time. I have tried lullabys … I’m not getting any sleep I have a 12 year old son I’m just to tired to deal with anyone or anything.
    Please any help would be appreciated

    Hayley perham on

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